(I added that in case you were waiting for confirmation that you aren’t 🙂 )
I am a good mom.
Say it out loud with me!
Did you find that hard to say? I did.
Did you find it even more difficult to really settle it in your heart without a steady stream of accusations floating through your mind? What?!? You didn’t wear your baby? You didn’t potty train by 2? You’ve had to rewash the towels 3 times because you can’t remember to put them in the dryer? AND your 9th grader isn’t taking Advanced Calculus this year? 😀
Yeah…still…You ARE a good mom.
Why is this such a hard bunch of words to speak and believe about ourselves ? Truly, I don’t know of a more loving, giving, hard-working group of ladies than the mamas that I am blessed to know. We may all have very different parenting styles, and a different set of goals for our families and ourselves, but one thing we all have in common…We love our children very much.
And love covers a multitude of sins !
I AM A GOOD MOM. Practice saying the words aloud to yourself till you believe them…then share them with a friend.
I read a lovely blog post today written by Danielle, a mom just like us. If you’re in need of some encouragement, or know another mama who needs a reassuring word, read this post and pass it along!!! THE DO’S AND DON’TS OF BEING A “GOOD” MOMfrom Today’s the Best Day
“Rejoice with your family in the beautiful land of life!” ~Albert Einstein
Family traditions for the holidays vary as greatly as the families who keep them.
Whether you celebrate with a fantastic home-cooked feast, or Chinese Take-Out;
spend a quiet day at home, or spend it packed with extended family and friends, and friends of friends;
whether you are starting a new tradition in your family or keeping a long beloved one… keeping holiday traditions is part of the fabric of what makes a family.
Traditions become something we count on.
Another thing we can count on in life is change.
Have you just moved and can’t find your Christmas tree among the chaos ?
Feeling lonely because family is far away?
Spending the holidays in a country where food and customs are quite different?
Maybe, for whatever circumstance, you aren’t able to keep your most treasured traditions?
Don’t despair !
Don’t let circumstances rob you of the joy and roots of the holiday!
Get creative !
Make up a new tradition. You might just be surprised how much you’ll love it!
Soon after another move far away from all our family, and before we had really met anyone in our new town, a very quiet Christmas surprised us.
It was just us.
Our traditions always included a wonderful Christmas dinner and a house bursting with friends and family. The house was glaringly quiet and we debated what to do.
And so, we decided to go out for Chinese food !
Yep. Could have been inspired by the 24-hour A Christmas Story marathon. 🙂
Truthfully, it felt kind of sad and pathetic at first….but we laughed and we told funny family stories, and we ate together, and really enjoyed the night.
Five years later, and five Christmas Eve Chinese dinners later, this has become one of my children’s absolute favorite traditions.
Gratitude builders (for kids of all ages)…
it’s what is on my mind this week.
That, and truth be told, I’m thinking about those sweet faces in the picture above, and all the friends I am missing from the time we lived in Peru.
I know I need to turn the melancholy feeling toward gratitude & I’m hoping
in digging out some fun ideas to share this week, I’ll do just that!
‘Tis the season to reflect on all we have to be thankful for in these wonderful lives of ours ! ‘Tis the season for gathering together with friends and family. Awww.
And… ‘Tis the season to cram as much wonderful life as possible into every corner of every day . I’m not sure about you, but these very lovely feelings of gratitude and family warmth can quickly turn into a jumble of endless evenings of events, crying kiddos, serious shopping stress, kid meltdowns, and then one major mommy meltdown !
What helps our family? I’m a planner. I make plans to make plans. I’m not even joking. Ask my poor family. And because, I’m prone to mommy meltdowns (and yelling at dogs!),
I know we ALL can benefit from taking some quiet time as a family to appreciate these special days. Just taking a moment to breathe, to be thoughtful, and to be thankful.
So, I’m making a plan. 🙂 I’ve googled, and Pinterested, and pulled out old books. I’m making a list of a few things to do, nothing strenuous or time intensive, just a couple quick ideas to make some quiet family time actually happen.
– My Family’s Thanksgiving Story Perhaps you might like to make your own family’s special story of Thanksgiving. I started the Thanksgiving notebook when my children were very small. Every year there are various questions written at the top of it’s pages…every person (including guests) on Thanksgiving Day (or sometime during that week) signs in beside a number on the first page and answers the questions throughout the book. We have several books now that are filled with the sweetest thoughts, memories, and words of love & friendship. There are some years of little kid scribbles, of some umm… ‘creative’ things the kids were thankful for, some touching memories of happy times, and even several years that the pages are mostly in Spanish as we celebrated with our beautiful Peruvian friends. Every year I bring the old notebooks out to read and remember. There are some lovely treasures in those books- thoughts from my Grandma, who passed away at 95 last year, and other people we have been blessed to know and love along the way. These books are a very precious part of our family’s story.
It all started today with yelling at my dog, some fleas, cold coffee, and some dust bunnies.
What does that have to do with teaching your kids about thankfulness ???
Here’s what’s floating around my mind (other than aforementioned, dust bunnies 😀
But not in the “it’s-almost-Thanksgiving-and-I-need-to-hurry-up-and-be-thankful“
kind of way,more in the
“stop-and-open-my-eyes-and-actually-SEE-life-all-around-me-and-be-thankful” kind of way.
Gratitude takes a special kind of seeing some days. Sight, past the obvious.
My recent version of obvious… I wake up. I make coffee. I Iet the dog outside. I see the obvious. I see my grass needs to be mowed. I see the weeds overtaking my garden. I see my fence needs repair. It’s raining. I quickly close the door. The dog brings half the back yard in on his feet; I see mopping all the floors in my future.
I try again.
I mean it’s almost Thanksgiving. I have to be grateful.
I need to finish my list of things I’m thankful for.
I need to make my kids finish their lists of things they’re thankful for.
I need to… err… you get the idea.
I curl up in my favorite chair. I start to read. I’m distracted. The house is too quiet. I see the obvious everywhere. I see a dog hair dust bunny the size of Texas floating across the floor. I see the dirty dishes that need to be done. I see that by next year this time, my house will be quiet like this all the time… empty of kids and all the noise and motion that comes along with them.
Sheesh. The dog wants to go out again…and this time he brings back in the other half of the backyard on his feet. Now my cup of coffee is cold. And it’s time to finish a math lesson. Now my list won’t get done. I didn’t get my “quiet time” “done” either.
And so I lose it.
I yell at the dog. I mean I YELL AT THE DOG ! I blame the whole list of what’s not going right in my world squarely on him right down to the cold coffee. He looks really confused and kind of scared.
And the kids hear me too.
That completely blows the gratitude lesson I did with them earlier in the morning.
< Thoughtful Gratitude Builders >
Ummm yeah. And then I get it.
It’s MY attitude that needs a major overhaul. “They” say we teach most powerfully by our example.
Have you ever had a day (or a string of days) like this ?!?
Some days Every day, I need to just stop for a moment, take a deep breath, open my eyes, open my heart, and really SEE life…life past the “obvious” that an overtired heart sees.
There is beauty everywhere to be thankful for. There is good even in the worst situations. There is laughter even at the saddest moments. It’s all about seeing past the obvious.
I’m practicing. And my dog is grateful.
Years ago, I read a story to my children, taken from Corrie Ten Boom’s book ‘The Hiding Place’. It is called “Thank You, God, for the Fleas!“. I don’t know if they remember it or not, but I have never forgotten it.
All these lessons & stories are so good, but can we (I) truly teach our children to grow a thankful heart if we aren’t tending our own hearts and training them toward gratefulness ?
I hope we can somehow all be encouragers of thanksgiving along the way, as fully as Betsie was for Corrie.
I am giving thanks today for all of you mamas out there who are giving your all to raise your sons and daughters to change the world by their love and light!!
Teaching kids ourselves thankfulness takes a whole lot of effort some days. But it is all well worth the return! For which my dog is abundantly grateful. 🙂