(I added that in case you were waiting for confirmation that you aren’t 🙂 )
I am a good mom.
Say it out loud with me!
Did you find that hard to say? I did.
Did you find it even more difficult to really settle it in your heart without a steady stream of accusations floating through your mind? What?!? You didn’t wear your baby? You didn’t potty train by 2? You’ve had to rewash the towels 3 times because you can’t remember to put them in the dryer? AND your 9th grader isn’t taking Advanced Calculus this year? 😀
Yeah…still…You ARE a good mom.
Why is this such a hard bunch of words to speak and believe about ourselves ? Truly, I don’t know of a more loving, giving, hard-working group of ladies than the mamas that I am blessed to know. We may all have very different parenting styles, and a different set of goals for our families and ourselves, but one thing we all have in common…We love our children very much.
And love covers a multitude of sins !
I AM A GOOD MOM. Practice saying the words aloud to yourself till you believe them…then share them with a friend.
I read a lovely blog post today written by Danielle, a mom just like us. If you’re in need of some encouragement, or know another mama who needs a reassuring word, read this post and pass it along!!! THE DO’S AND DON’TS OF BEING A “GOOD” MOMfrom Today’s the Best Day
“If mothers could learn to do for themselves what they do for their children… we should have happier households.
Let the mother go out to play!
If she would only have courage to let everything go when life becomes too tense,
and just take a day, or half a day, out in the fields, or with a favourite book,
or in a picture gallery looking long and well at just two or three pictures,
or in bed, without the children,
life would go on far more happily for both children and parents.” ~Charlotte Mason
Let the mother go out to play !
Don’t you just love those words ?
Children have no trouble playing.
Fun is pulsing through their veins and wiggling out of every limb.
Play just comes naturally to them.
If left alone long enough, children invent the most wonderful games and fantastic stories.
Creativity and imagination are limitless, emotions are being worked out,
FUN is happening !
Think about it…kids generally don’t return from playing outside all stressed out! 🙂
When was the last time that YOU went out to play mom ?
“Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr.
Stop and think hard.
Close your eyes and remember.
Think of the all the little details.
It will make you smile.
Ever think of how your own children might answer this question someday?
Every day, we have the opportunity to create memories with the people we love.
It doesn’t have to involve expensive vacations or extravagant gifts…just some thought
and some time and lots of love.
Get creative !
I have two (update: THREE😱) kids in their 20’s. Every year they ask if we can still carve pumpkins.
It’s a tradition.
They bring their friends…we laugh…throw pumpkin guts…make a huge, sticky mess…
toast pumpkin seeds…eat snacks…and watch “It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown!”.
I don’t know about how life changing or meaningful any of that may be,
but every year, I take a deep breath,
and let the crazy mess begin,
and know we’re making another memory.
“Don’t ever give up. Don’t ever give in. Don’t ever stop trying. Don’t ever sell out. And if you find yourself succumbing to one of the above for a brief moment, pick yourself up, brush yourself off, whisper a prayer, and start where you left off. But never, ever, ever give up.”
~ Richelle E. Goodrich
Perseverance. per·se·ver·ance (noun) steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.
The word for today. I know. It isn’t exactly the most inspiring word ever. Makes me feel tired just thinking about that word.
But we DO get tired sometimes. Tired of messes. Tired of stresses. Tired of “well doing” . Or maybe just plain tired. 🙂
Take a few minutes. Make yourself a steaming hot cup of tea, or take the time to steam some milk and make a beautiful latte. Next, seek out a cookie. Any cookie will do. Really! Eat a cookie. Just do it. You won’t be sorry! It’s for medicinal reasons ! And then sit (do not stand at the counter, or the table, or fold a load of towels!!!). Take a deep breath.
Breathe. Deeply. Repeat. Now sip.
Sip while it’s actually still hot. Don’t gulp in between math problems. Enjoy the warmth all the way down to your tummy.
< Ignore the noise, the kids jumping on the couch, the dryer buzzer, and all the dog hair dust bunnies that you now notice floating across the living room since you’re actually sitting down- close your eyes if you have to!! It will all be there still in 30 minutes. Unfortunate, but true.> Remember to take the time (even in short bits) to be filled. To breathe. To remind yourself of what is good, what is true, what is lovely. And fill your heart and mind with those things. You will be surprised at the feeling of hope and new energy to keep going, I think.
Persevere. “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” ~ Galatians 6:9