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5 Helps For Parenting a Prodigal


Parenting a Prodigal

You feed them and rock them to sleep;
you teach them how to talk, and walk, and run, and jump, and how to tie their shoes.  You teach them how to ride a bike . You teach them to drive a car.  You teach them to be strong and confident in who they are.  You teach them how to reason and think for themselves.

So, what happens when they do that…BUT¬†¬†“thinking for themselves” looks a whole lot more like defiance and rebellion?

 

Truthfully, there’s a lot you can’t do. ¬†
You can’t control another human being…this includes your child. ¬†You can’t monitor them 24/7 or make good choices for them. ¬†You can’t control the inevitable consequences that come into your life via your “prodigal”.
And you just can’t “fix” them.


However out of control things seem, there are some things
you can do right now!

I am the mom of a child who is living in the “far country”, far from our family, and far from God. ¬†I have felt ashamed and frustrated and like I have failed at the very thing I had devoted my entire adult life to. ¬†Then one day as I was chatting with a few other moms, one of them tearfully shared her pain in dealing with her own difficult child. ¬†She is an amazing mom, by the way.
HOW did I not know? WHY didn’t we talk to each other sooner?
And guess what?! ¬†She and I¬†weren’t the only ones.
Since that conversation, the love and support that has come out of that one brave exchange has been invaluable. These thoughts are written from my own experiences. ¬†Everyone’s situations are different. Whatever yours may be, ¬†
I hope  that in some small way, the lessons I have struggled to learn will be helpful to you and will bring you hope!

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How to Keep a Quiet Heart in a Loud World !

 

~ Keeping a Quiet Heart ~

Why is it so hard to keep a quiet heart?
Or is that just something I struggle with?

I watch my youngest pull out of the driveway every single morning.
I pray and fight the swelling urge to worry.
I deny my mind the right to consider the rush of fearful thoughts
that want to come bursting in.
It’s been a year since her accident.

I will keep a quiet heart.

That’s hard work!
Yet harder still is the labor of worry.
Believe me, I know !
I don’t recommend that occupation at all. ¬†ūüôā

Do any of you worry?
My friend wakes up in the middle of the night filled with incredible anxiety over her ability to homeschool¬†her children. ¬†Another friend is overcome with thoughts of failures in her finances. ¬†Whether it’s fretting over health, or wayward children, or an uncertain future, ¬†or even over all the holiday plans, it’s ¬†exhausting ! ¬†Phew!

How do we keep a quiet heart ?
I can’t tell you what will work for you, but this has been my journey in a nutshell.

Things I’ve learned :

Worry is just another word for FEAR.
Fear is an ugly thing.
It will destroy anything it can get ahold of…
relationships, health, happiness,

peace, LIFE !
We tend to feel most fearful when we cannot
CONTROL
or have lost control, of our circumstances.

Prayer works.
Take a deep breath (or 5).
Sometimes, I think I have held my breath all day.

Recognize when fear is creeping in.
You aren’t in control, but that’s OK.
God is good.
He is in control.
Nothing surprises Him.


Choose faith over fear.


Stop.  Pray.

There isn’t a right way to do it.
Just DO it !

And then do it again.
And breathe.

The mind and the heart are connected.
If your heart is beating wildly with worry,
chances are
 your mind is full of loud clutter too!
I chose a short Scripture to pray when my mind wouldn’t allow me to focus.
Almost like a type of fasting, I would pray this verse every single time
I began to feel overwhelmed.
Words to focus my heart & mind on truth.
These are not some “magic words” ¬†that obligate God to answer us.
They are
Simply truth.


I wrote these words & placed them all over my house
until I could pray each part

from memory…slowly with contemplation.

“The Lord is near.

         Do not be anxious about anything,
         but in every situation,
         by prayer and petition,
         with thanksgiving,
         present your requests to God.
        And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,
¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

You have to CHOOSE peace.
 
While you can’t control other people, or circumstances,
you can control yourself.


Choose peace over fear.

It IS a choice.
Sometimes worry becomes a habit.
It takes discipline to break a bad habit.

I know when you’re tired and stressed out,
this will take all the energy you’ve got.

It will be worth it though.

When life is REALLY throwing all it’s hard balls at once;
and it’s so very hard to concentrate on anything else…
the rest of that verse tells us what we can fill our mind
with in place of all the worry.

“Finally, brothers and sisters,
          whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right,
whatever is pure,

          whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable
¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ‚ÄĒif anything is excellent or praiseworthy‚ÄĒ
          think about such things.

Make a list.
Something true.  Something noble.
Something right.  Something pure.
Something lovely.  Something admirable.
Something excellent.  Something praiseworthy.
Then think about those things.  
You may have to make several lists a day.
FILL your mind with these things ! 

God really does love us.
God really is GOOD.
You really can trust Him.

I am praying for you today  !
May the perfect love of Christ cast out all the fear in your hearts today.
May He watch over your comings and goings (and those of your families).
May He keep you in perfect peace.

Philippians 4:9

 

Fields of Daisies Days

It’s Friday Favorites!
More fun ideas for more fields of daisies days!

If you are just stopping by for the first time, you may be wondering what in the world I mean by ¬†“fields of daisies” days. ¬† ¬† ¬†ūüôā

Welcome to my cozy corner of Bloglandia!
Click on over  [HERE]  to read what these wonderful days are all about,  then come back and sit and stay awhile!

I’m so glad you’ve found Fields of Daisies !

I hope you will enjoy the free ¬†UNITS ¬†I’m posting, ¬†my favorite homeschooling finds, and most of all, I hope you will find some encouragement to keep on
living, loving, and learning with your family!

So, without further ado…on to the fun!!

Earlier this week, I posted some thoughts on being able to SEE the good and the Mercy¬†in each day…
and I kept thinking, in the least,  we all have days that
test our patience.

It’s so frustrating when our plans change, or sickness happens, or there are endless trips to and from, ¬†and “school” gets put on hold.

How do you homeschool on days like these?

Some days are just difficult, but making them into the best, most memorable kinds of days is totally possible. ¬†It’s more than possible!
(REALLY this IS a fun post!  I promise!  Keep reading !)

 

So HOW do we do it ?!?
Look for the daisy moments!

Here are some ideas.

 


* When mama is sick~

 Can it be a good day when Mom is sick in bed?
Depends on how you see it!

– Read this mama’s sweet reminder at ilovemy5kids
THIS is a perfect field of daisies kind of day!


РCurl up together and listen to your favorite books.  There are TONS of free audiobooks for all ages.
Listen to some stories that might be brand new to you!
There are some fantastic ones out there that have so much to teach…about science, or math, or history!

Click here to see some of our favorites over the years Story Time !
And my very favorite series of books, The Chronicles of Narnia are all available free online!!

* The feeling blue kind of day~
Try ditching the regular routine and do something happy !!
What could be cheerier than  PEEPS ?!?
Peeps STEM activities from Schooling a Monkey
–¬†Peep Science from Coffee Cups and Crayons

Peep Science   from  The Frugal Navy Wife
Peep S’mores… Oh my! ¬†from DomesticSuperhero.com

* Unexpected all day in the car~
Home“schooling.
Laughable some days isn’t it ?!?


– Just talk to each other.

Some of the very deepest conversations I’ve had with my children have happened spontaneously while in the car. ¬†Maybe it is the lack of distractions, or maybe because we have each other as a
captive audience. ¬†ūüôā
Either way, don’t “miss it” and stress about all that isn’t getting done at home… lots of important life can be found in the confines of the car.


– Roll the windows down and SING!
   Sing LOUD too!
¬† Ahhhhh. ¬†Doesn’t that feel so good?!?!

– ¬†I love this idea to create your family’s own soundtrack
from Alpha Mom


– Play some silly car games that ALL of you might enjoy!


– A fun “speriment” for the younger kiddos from this mom at
The (Reformed) Idealist Mom

* When everyone is wiggly and has
spring fever~

Get outside!
Even in the rain or slush ! ¬† The kids don’t mind, and stomping in puddles can make you feel like you’re 5.
And that’s a good thing. ¬† ¬†ūüôā


РHere are some great ideas from Our Journey Westward

*And at last….the days when you are simply feeling “interrupted” by LIFE!

-I absolutely love this encouragement from Heidi St. John  !
-And THIS SONG from Kristene DiMarco

Hope you find a hidden daisy today !

 

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